To be human is to experience it all, the ups and downs, the highs and lows, the scattered in between, it’s all a part of life and it’s all okay. To feel is to be alive and to be alive is a gift from God. We often take this gift for granted until we lose someone we love. Loss reminds us that we are here only for a short time, so we need to make each and every day count.
It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to be angry or frustrated, exhausted or overwhelmed. If , in our heartache, we cry, it’s okay. If, in our exhaustion, we reset, it’s okay. If, in our brokenness, we make mistakes, it’s okay.
When we give ourselves permission to say it is okay, we replace shame with grace and grace is the best gift we could ever give ourselves. We all need more grace, more empathy, more space to feel, to be alive, to be human.
Without grace we will spend our one precious life always wishing things were different and we will inevitably forget it’s all a gift. Every single day, every single moment, every single breath - a beautiful and precious gift.
Who are your friends who TRULY have your back when the chips are down? Who is the REAL, LOYAL friend? You might have a lot of people that are in your life, but that does not make them a REAL FRIEND.
I am not talking about acquaintances, I am talking True Friends. In tough times, you often find out who your true friends are, the hard way! It’s one of the greatest things about going through tough times, because it will reveal who the true, loyal friends are...the ones who have your back when things are going astray.
The one that stands by you in your darkest hour. The friend who reaches out to you when the tough times arrive. The friend who truly celebrates and is happy for you when you win (isn’t secretly rooting against you, as so many do). The ones who will be honest and tell you the truth even when it is uncomfortable and you might not WANT to hear it, but NEED to hear it.
You will often find that your friend circle is a bit smaller than it used to be. Remember those who have respected your hard work and drive. Remember those who have stood by you in your lows and celebrated with you in your accomplishments. Remember the people who have been with you through it all. The ones who honor the true meaning of “having your back”.
As Dominique Turetto would say your “Ride or Die”...for those of you who love Fast & the Furious! These are the ones you keep close. They are true blessings in your life and be grateful for the ones who didn’t stay. Trust in the fact that they came and went when they should have!
Be truly grateful for the few TRUE friends you have...cause you can ROCK THIS LIFE NOW TOGETHER!!
Rock It!! Love ya!
Hope, gratitude and happiness feel extremely far for many of us right now, but your mental state doesn’t have to depend on your current conditions and circumstances. You have to make the conscious CHOICE to count your blessings and focus on what you DO have, instead of what you’re lacking.
We can choose to be GRATEFUL
We can choose to be HAPPY
We can choose to have HOPE
We can choose to see this as the opportunity for which I truly believe it to be
You don’t have to wait for your circumstances to change before you start to be happy and smile again. When this pandemic comes to an end, and it will, you are going to look back on all of your choices, all of your habits and behaviors, and all of your accomplishments. You want to be proud of how you were able to maximize the time you had. You want to have squeezed every last drop to maximize the opportunity for growth. Don’t let this time slip away!! Give everything you have to use this time to create the next best version of yourself. If you have been wanting to write a book, start writing the book...if you have wanted to learn a language or learn how to play an instrument DO IT & STOP TALKING about it!!
The choices you make during these times will determine the version of you that emerges when this is all over.
Choose to be the best you that you can be...REMEMBER...you only have one, so ROCK THIS LIFE NOW!!
Sometimes the amazing stuff can coexist with the tough stuff. Give yourself permission to feel good. It’s okay to be human. Even when things aren’t working out as you planned, we need to learn to access good-feeling emotions.
Dedicate some time every day to consciously focus on feeling good so that in time it actually becomes your default state. When we embody an energy of joy, we realease resistance and angst. I know it can be extremely difficult to find joy in seemingly joyless situations, but it is far more painful to live a joyless existence. When we focus on what isn’t working we just get more of what’s not working.
One of the fastest ways to get back into alignment with what you desire is to do something that makes you feel good. If I’ve had a bad day, I’ll get my headphones, pick out some great music and take a walk around the block or go to an exercise class. Even though things aren’t going as planned, I have learned that I can still have fun and CHOOSE to be happy in spite of conditions and circumstances. IT IS A CHOICE!! In fact, the more fun I have the closer i get to attracting what i want. Sometimes we have to stop focusing so hard on our desires in order to attract them into our life. The desire is ALWAYS there, it is just that focusing on its absence actually deflects it, whereas having fun brings us closer to receiving our desire.
Release the grip of resistance by redirecting your focus onto something that will distract you. GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY and find something to do that brings you joy, happiness and excitement.
That way...you can ROCK THIS LIFE NOW!!!!!
Love you all!
Kindness has such multiplying effects. It’s an incredible feeling to bring kindness into the world. Even the tiniest act of kindness can elevate someone’s day. It tells another human being that they aren’t alone - that there is someone out there thinking of them. And believe me, we ALL need that NOW MORE THAN EVER, but being kind goes way beyond the person who we bought the coffee for or gave the compliment to. Kindness is a contagion!! As we emanate it, we spread it!
Think of a pebble in the water..imagine you have a pebble in your hand and you are standing at the edge of a small body of still, calm water. You toss the pebble into the middle of the water and watch as it creates a vibration through the water, sending gentle ripples outward reverberating concentric circles all the way through the pond. When we pick up the tab, or volunteer our time, we are instigating a small “splash” that will ripple out farther than we could ever know. There’s a whole circle of people who will be uplifted by our gesture and feel inspired to be more kind themselves. This is where the multiplying, or compound, effect comes in. Whenever we observe an act of kindness we are impacted, the same way as the recipient. A kind gesture does not just impact the person on the receiving end, it impacts everyone who observes it, or even hears about it.
I invite you today to spread kindness in any way that you can..a smile, a kind word, - as you interact with others, don’t be afraid to make small waves and feel the power of your kindness reverberating.
Love doesn’t need a holiday such as Valentine’s Day or any other special day, Love shows up every single day.
*Love is having actual conversations with the clerk behind the counter or the grocery attendant packing up your bags.
*Love is slowing down to let someone over on the freeway
*Love is sending a text to a friend just saying “I’m thinking of you”
*Love is waving hello even if they don’t wave back
*Love is the random smiling at someone, who you never know that you might have just made their day
*Love is holding the door for the elderly woman with a walker
This is the kind of love that brings a smile to God’s Face. It isn’t complicated, it’s nothing fancy ...simple random acts of kindness. It doesn’t need an invitation or holiday. Love simply shows up, EVERY SINGLE DAY!
Sometimes in our darkest moments, in our brokenness, we see God’s love again and again. Everything has more meaning. The little things have grown smaller, the things that truly matter have grown larger, the sunsets have more color and rainbows have more wonder.
The here and now today, the loss of yesterday, any pain that comes tomorrow, is only temporary...nothing lasts forever. Remember in these unprecedented times:
He will give me strength to walk over the hills and through the valleys to a place of peace, knowing He is in control and right there with me every step of the way. His love gently lights the way ahead.
In his famous speech, when Pearl Harbor was attacked by the Japanese, known as the most infamous day in history, American president Franklin D. Roosevelt addressed the nation, famously stated, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”.
Fear is universal and we ALL face it, so why do some people allow it to paralyze them and others rise to the occasion and step up, appearing to be fearless? The only way to deal with fear is to face it head on and overcome it. Dale Carnegie said, “In-action breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, DO NOT sit at home and think about it Go out and get busy”.
Here are some steps to take action and overcome fear:
1. Admit/Accept Your Fears
One of the biggest misconceptions is that courage equals a lack of fear when actually the opposite is true. “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear - not absence of fear”, Mark Twain said. By admitting your fear, we can then challenge how accurate it really is.
2. What is the Foundation of our Fear
Much of our fear is not based upon facts, but based on a feeling. There is an old saying that happens to be one of my favorite quotes regarding fear, “Fear and worry are interest paid in advance on something you may never own”. When we acknowledge that the majority of fear is unfounded, we can begin to release its power over us.
3. Focus on What You Can Control
We can’t control when our time is up, we cannot control our circumstances that we face but we can control our attitudes and our actions. John Wooden said, “Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do”.
Remember that YOU decide:
*“I can control my attitude, but not others actions”
*”I can control my calendar, but not others’ circumstances”
*”It’s not what happens TO me, but what happens IN me”
4. Focus on TODAY!
The only thing you have any control over is today! Yesterday is history and tomorrow hasn’t happened yet… But focusing only on what is right in front, we can manage tremendous risk as we know we only have to deal with it one day at a time.
5. Do It NOW - TAKE ACTION!
Often, all it takes to conquer our fears is to change our focus, and focus on that which we CAN control. By taking action in the face of fear, by accepting that fear is part of life and must be faced and overcome with courage, we will achieve results. Harry Truman said, “The worst danger we face is the danger of being paralyzed by doubts and fears. This danger is brought on by those who abandon faith and sneer at hope”.
We must feed our faith and starve our fears. Hope is Having Overcome Persevering in Everything. NEVER GIVE UP HOPE!
Faith is about NOT asking God to take you out of the storm, it’s about asking Him to help you THROUGH the storm.
Sometimes life turns upside down in a meer moment and we are met with unspeakable pain. Other times it comes on like a slow leak that continually drips. We step into a new world we never ever anticipated, riddled with hurt and frustration and hard stuff to persevere through. We might know that “God’s got it” but the pain still remains and we need to decide if we will choose to see the blessings in the pain.
We KNOW God can and WILL bring good out of the terrible, unforeseen hardships, but we have to be willing to look for the blessings within. “We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”. Romans 8:28
It is possible to endure terrible conditions and circumstances and find blessings at the same time; one will not cancel out the other. Once I began practicing truly placing my COMPLETE TRUST and dependence on God, I have discovered a relationship with Him that I never knew was possible. He is my best friend and is there always, right by my side, no matter what. He whispers to me, “Be still and know that I am God” Psalm 46:10.
I feel that i am truly blessed beyond measure, but that does not mean that I do not have challenging days where I question things, BECAUSE I DO, but it does say out of the difficult times some amazing qualities and blessings have arisen. My character is being tested and i need to stay faithful and obedient.
It is inevitable that at some point we all meet up with the unexpected and life seems as if it is utterly unbearable. Are you going to choose to see only the difficulty and hardship? Looking for the goodness of God in the middle of hardship will not erase the pain but it will help you to embrace the unexpected with a sense of peace.
I challenge you to stop and count your blessings that have come from overcoming difficult situations. “This too shall pass...Count it all joy”...
Remember, you only have one, so ROCK THIS LIFE NOW!!
Love you all!!!
The elderly, the immunocompromised, the sick and those on multi medications (4 or more), diabetics, those with heart disease and cardiovascular conditions, COPD, asthma, pregnant women, those in nursing homes and those with health problems are the most vulnerable. Let’s do our part in flattening the curve and slowing the spread of this virus down as much as possible.
Besides taking the obvious precautions, it is important to pay attention to your mental/emotional health, now more than ever, during this uncertain time. Notice, If you are living in a constant state of fear and anxiety, because that in itself, will take a huge toll on your nervous system, hormonal system, and immune system, which you need functioning at the strongest and most optimum level right now.
Tips for Prevention:
1. First of all, avoidance and social distancing is the best defense.
2. Hand washing for 20 seconds with warm water and soap. Don’t touch your face,mouth or eyes is very important as well.
3. Stay hydrated with filtered water.
4. Nourish yourself with an abundance and diversity of organic vegetables, colorful plants, antimicrobial herbs, garlic (a natural anti-viral and anti-microbial) & since we are all social distancing there is no need to worry about “garlic breath” :), fruits and organic grass-fed sources of protein.
5. Get outdoors as much as possible...walk outdoors for 30 minutes every day. Get 30 minutes of daily exercise.
6. Get a daily dose of sunlight, especially within an hour of waking to reset your circadian rhythm.
7. Turn off your phone and unplug the WiFi by 8 pm. Try to stay off devices after 8 pm.
8. Prioritize and aim for 8 hours of sleep every night.
9. Practice the 3 B’s: Bounce, Brush and Breathe to support strong immunity.
10. Avoid stress effects on your body by practicing daily prayer, yoga, meditation, balance ...read something spiritual, the Bible...important to calm the nervous system during these times.
11. DAILY DOSE OF VITAMIN “G” - GRATITUDE..practice gratitude daily...have a journal by your bed and write down 3 things you are grateful for each and every MORNING & NIGHT!
BE AWARE OF IMMUNE SUPPRESSORS:
Poor diet, nutrient deficiencies, all nighters, stressful relationships, not adequate sleep, chemicals, OTC-Rx Drugs, infections, sun avoidance, blue light at night, fear, worry, anxiety, dehydration, moldy environments, and THE NEWS constantly on or in the background!!
STAY HEALTHY, STAY STRONG, STAY WELL...Please share with your family, friends and loved ones.
REMEMBER...We only have ONE, So ROCK THIS LIFE NOW!
With the rapid spread of this Covid-19 across the entire world, leaders everywhere are being challenged to lead in very uncertain & unprecedented times. The setbacks have been extremely widespread and significant for all of us, and the question is how are you going to respond?
Every setback has a benefit...nothing great has ever been achieved without adversity. “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”, as Charles Swindoll so eloquently stated. Think on the benefits of setbacks:
1) Setbacks prompt creativity and innovation
2) Setbacks develop maturity
3) Setbacks provide us greater opportunities
4) Setbacks create GRIT & resilience
5) Setbacks MOTIVATE
6) Setbacks push the envelope of accepted performance
Finding the benefit in a setback is an ability that must be learned and cultivated. Success is earned as you learn from adversity and we must learn how to embrace setback as part of the journey. Reframing your perspective on setbacks will help you continue to move forward, no matter how far you have been knocked down. While we may not know exactly what the future holds, we do know that “this too shall pass”. Will you be ready to bounce back when we come out of this...and WE WILL come out of this!!!