Most people can give you hundreds of reasons why they fail at things, but they often struggle to give you just a few of the reasons as to why they succeeded. When we have a bad performance we know exactly WHY! We know WHO to blame, exactly WHAT happened and everything like that, but we cannot actually verbalize why we won or why we were successful at something.
Failure is often times a much more powerful emotion than that of victory. NOBODY wants to fail...failure is often what we try to avoid our entire life. It does also act as a motivator for many, as well as not failing. We have this bizarre fear of failure and yet, only after failing do we know what it is like to succeed. I think it is truly more about having others SEE us fail.
Does winning have the same connection to a person’s deepest fears? No..it does not! Winning is something that, when it happens, most of us are actually surprised. It is as if we actually EXPECT to fail and are surprised when the opposite happens.
When you start to go back into the mindset of “I don’t want to fail”, write down and journal three or four things that you did that led you to a win, or led you to a success. You will soon realize that there is a process and the process always wins...habits and routines performed consistently are what lead you to victory. Get obsessed with the process-the process is your life! The goal is some day.
Winning requires full alignment and failure can often be based on an acute lack of judgment and focus. Be sure to track your winning process and what it took to get there and get really excited about the tiny baby steps & “little wins” that we often don’t give any credit to. It’s a process and a journey and appreciating what it took to get there make the wins that much sweeter. It starts by understanding WHY you were successful and the steps that you took to get there.
Champions aren’t afraid of failing and every single one of us has a champion (a “rockstar”) on the inside!!