You don’t need people’s approval..other people’s opinions are NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!! Stay focused on your goals and dreams that God put in your heart and he will get you where you are supposed to be. There will always be people who try to pressure you into being who they think you should be. They may mean well and they may have good intentions and think they know what is best for you, but they did not equip or empower you the way God did! I love the way Trent Shelton says it, “Just because they are standing next to you, doesn’t mean they want the best for you...everybody in your inner circle might not be in your corner.” This is so very true and yet, so often, we do not pay attention to it.
If you are going to become the winner you were created to be, you have to be bold and strong and don’t give in , or pay attention, to what others say or think about you. You cannot worry about what everyone thinks and you certainly cannot try to keep everybody happy. One of the qualities of a winner is that you run your race the way you choose to run it.
You have to be willing to accept the fact that you cannot make everyone happy and you will never win over every critic or make everyone like you. As long as you are staying to true to you, and being true to who God called you to be, you can just stay focused on your goals.
If people talk about you, or are upset and do not understand you, that’s okay...you don’t need their approval, and frankly, their opinions really don’t matter for where you are trying to go. We spend way too much time trying to impress other people, trying to gain their approval, wondering what they are going to think if we wear a new outfit, take this new job or not, etc. Instead of us running our races, we often make decisions based on superficial stuff.
How many people today are not being true to who they are because they are afraid that they might disappoint someone, they may not be accepted or they might fall out of good graces. God does not want you to be an imposter or an imitation of somebody else. You need to be the original masterpiece that he created you to be. Even though it may be difficult try to remember that everyone has a right to their opinion and you have every right not to listen to them. If what other people say is not in align with what God has put in your heart, then let it go in one ear and out the other. If you try to keep everybody happy the one person that will be unhappy and frustrated is YOU!! You will find that, quite often, those who try to run your life and tell you what to do often cannot even run their own lives, much less yours.
Your destiny is much too great to get distracted and waste time and energy trying to win over people who may not ever like you. Don’t take it personally because it is not about you. It is usually about them and often it’s because they are jealous of what God is doing in your life. There is nothing you can do that will change them...no matter how much you try to show them kindness and compassion, they will still find something to criticize or complain about.
This reminds me of a story i heard not too long ago, about a grandfather in the country who took his son into town on a donkey. He started off letting his grandson ride the donkey as he walked by its side. Someone passing by said, “Look at the selfish boy making that old man walk”. The grandfather heard it and took the boy off. Then he rode the donkey as his grandson walked alongside and someone came along and said, “Look at the man making that little boy walk while he rides comfortably”. Hearing that, the grandfather pulled the little boy up with him and they both started riding the donkey. In just another few minutes, another person came by and said, “how cruel of you and the boy to place such a heavy load on that poor donkey.” By the time the two got to town, they were carrying the donkey! ...HA!! You cannot freakin’ win!! The moral of this story is that no matter what you do, you will never please everybody. They have a right to their opinions and you have a right to not pay attention to them.
Take a second to ask yourself: Are you allowing someone to control you or make you feel guilty about not doing what they want you to do? Set some boundaries if you need to so that you do not miss out on your God given destiny because you were too busy trying to please other people. He does not want you to waste your life trying to make other people happy. Be compassionate and kind but run your own race and stay true to you. Be secure and confident in who you are, stay true to what God has put in your heart, and he will get you to where you are supposed to go!