“Asking someone to change is like expecting the sun to not rise”...not sure who said this but think it is a perfect way to start this. I think it is a relevant quote because it is basically pointless...WE are the only ones who can change. Change comes from WITHIN, it is something we do ourselves and we can only control US. Why is it, then, that we constantly expect, ask & anticipate that a person will change?
Let’s focus on HOW we can change...Cause & Effect..Facts & Theory...Black & White….Yin and Yang. If you don’t like the end result, then YOU need to change the actions! Your actions (cause) create an end result (effort). If you do not like the effect, CHANGE the cause!
It really is quite simple, and yet, we complicate it because we think it is everyone else that’s the problem and needs to change, not us. Re-read what was just said...PAUSE, take a breath and READ IT AGAIN!! It’s very simple...we want a different end result, so, for that to happen WE NEED TO MAKE A CHANGE!!
If you are trying to convince someone that you are right and you feel like you aren’t getting anywhere, look within. Why are you trying to convince them of anything?? If someone does not see your point of view, if someone is doing something that you do not like, if someone is not what you expected...Then STOP looking at them as if they are the problem and find the answer inside you! Look at what you are thinking, what you are saying and doing that might very well be the issue.
Take the blame off of others and look at your own actions, then make the necessary changes & adjustments to achieve the end results you so desire.