Have you ever wondered why we tend to hold onto physical and emotional pain way longer than we need to? We often create, and maintain, problems because they tend to give us a sense of identity and purpose. I am pretty darn positive that you can think of someone you know who creates problems or “drama” and then assumes the victim role to get attention and sympathy.
These kind of behaviors do not serve us in any way whatsoever. Whether they are in ourselves or around us, they are due to our need to replace our past failures, or mistakes, like a broken record in all our minds. They do nothing more than build up feelings of regret and shame. We end up holding onto worry and frustration about the future which creates undue stress and anxiety. We have to learn how to discipline our mind by learning how to let go and focus on being present and doing what we can do today! The past is past and the future isn’t here yet...all we are given is today so it is up to us to make the most of it.
There are so many things we can do TODAY to start to let go of pain, sorrow or anger and allow a sense of peace and calm into your mind and body:
*Physical Exercise or Activity
*Make a list of your accomplishments
*Focus your energy on what you CAN control
*Think on all that you are grateful for
*Engage in a creative hobby or project
*Learn something new
*Focus on breathing…
*There is a great Kundalini meditation that offers a simple solution for letting go and releasing negative emotions. You can practice this virtually anywhere, anytime:
Gently press your thumb against your index finger, then your middle finger, then your ring finger and then your pinkie finger…
When you touch your index finger say: PEACE
When you touch your middle finger say: BEGINS
When you touch your ring finger say: WITH
When you touch your pinkie finger say: ME
Breathe deeply as you say each word and you may go as slow or as fast as you like. You honestly can use this technique anytime, anywhere - in line at the grocery store, when you are frustrated in a meeting or in a heated disagreement with someone. It will help get you through all kinds of crazy emotions and help calm and center you rather quickly.
Learning to let go is a process and the more time you give the practice of letting go, the easier it becomes. Letting go will bring you inner peace and reduce stress. It allows for new experiences and allows space for new memories to be made. It is definitely not an easy thing to do, but well worth the effort!